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I was heading into a new decade of my life feeling strong about my career, my life accomplishments and my relationship with my partner. But when he asked me who I wanted to invite to my birthday party, my mouth opened and I let out a long trail of "ummms". In my early twenties, I was a friend-making machine.
I think the title says it all.
I Dare you not to find something that suits you in the list below. Try them for three weeks and see what worked for you the most. Now, of course, you have to know how to talk to people, have a little fun, exchange contact information and take it from there. But, knowing where to go to meet people can make the whole process of making friends easier for you.
How to meet people in a new city
Sports Class: Boxing, Gym and Aerobics, etc. You choose. If you want to learn a new skill, then do it. If you want to do it just to meet friends, then fine. A lot of people take up new hobbies just for that. Non-Profit: a non-profit or just go to their events, talk to people and get interested in the people. These are great, I went to hundreds of events like them. The people are open and interested in making new friends. I like how chill the people are. You can go to a forum around something you love, start sharing your opinions on topics and then send private messages to some people you want to meet.
Bars and Pubs: Yes, they can be intimidating.
But you can just start talking to someone at the bar, guy or girl. If you want to meet new people at bars, go to busy bars where the music is not too loud. If you put yourself in a busy area, people are going to be all around you.
Turn on your confidence and talk to people. I go to bars because my social life gets stimulated in there. I happen to bump into a lot of people I know that I would like to turn into friends. And also, it gives me a chance to introduce my friends to each other which is very important.
She was into self-improvement so we hit it off pretty quick. Private Parties: Always go to the private parties of people you know. Especially Birthday parties.
People may act aloof about it, but it means a LOT to them if you show up at their birthday party. You make the friendship go a lot deeper. And people get very friendly and open at birthday parties. You can go and chat about the games and the team.
Try them for three weeks, keep what works for you.
Take the initiative and throw yourself in there
Then come back to get inspired again. Professional Events: Fairs, Function-Driven Groups example: sales, marketing, development, advertising, architects, lawyers, real estate, etc…. Self-explanatory I hope? That means they expect people to come and introduce themselves.
It makes it easy for you to meet new people. You can be a little easy going and show clearly that you can be fun too. Seminars: self-explanatory, right? If you go to a seminar about your subject of interest, how easier can it get to make new friends? You just met the people you want the most: People with shared interests.
These can be fun. But still, you can always meet at least two to five friends, just through an NLP Group.
Public Speaking Clubs like Toastmasters Do you want to learn public speaking? If not, you can skip this. But if you do, then definitely go to these.
Singles Clubs and Events and Speed Dating: These are fun, especially if you go with a friend or a female friend. The key is to not take it seriously. You can find singles clubs online.
I never did but heard great feedback on how interesting it is. What I did try is to contact local couchsurfers and asked them questions about the site and how did they find the experience. That led to adding them on Facebook and meeting them in person later on.
Language-Driven Events and Groups: People learning new languages like to meet others who do too. If you speak Spanish, French or any other foreign language, find a group of people who are learning it.
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If you drink, go to these. Some people are cool, some are just losers pretending to be cool. You have to make your pick. Remember, people are bored and no one listens to them. These places are full of young people.