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One may be the loneliestbut research shows that a lack of acquaintances isn't the only warning of solitude. Ever wonder to yourself why you feel alone even in a crowded room? Even in the midst of family and friends, all of us can feel alone and lonely. After all, from Elvis to Cher to Akon, musicians have been crooning about loneliness for years. Do you know the definition of loneliness? According to the Merriam-Webster online dictionaryloneliness means being without company; cut off from others; sad from being alone.
Wait, there’s hope!
Wayne is a passionate writer who shares lifestyle inspirations and tips on Lifehack. Read full profile. Being alone is not the same as being lonely Being alone is a state of being by oneself without others around. It can actually be a healthy phenomenon, as everyone needs a little time away from others to plan, to think, and to rest. However, being lonely is a different matter entirely. While Just so lonely at times people can still feel lonely even if they are surrounded by people.
To put it simply, loneliness can be viewed as a al indicating that some important social connections are at risk or even absent. Why do we feel lonely? Researchers find that loneliness can be passed down from parent to. Loneliness is not only a nature. Loneliness is contagious.
People who are not lonely tend to become lonelier if they are around lonely people, according to a research. Numerous studies have linked with excessive ongoing feelings of loneliness to the following health issues  :. Walking has been proven to offer many great health benefits for the body and the mind. Yes, any form of exercise would do as well, but walking is better, as it allows one to explore their town in a way a car ride simply does not provide. When you decide to walk, even when you are getting to an usual goal, try to take a different route than you usually do.
Even better, try to pick a direction at random. Just the feeling of walking down the street, surrounded by traffic and other people, is going to make you feel involved in your own city. Everyone has some passion. Sometimes, sharing your passion with others does not only open you up to more friendship; it may even enhance your talents in surprising ways!
Even the smallest town has some clubs. If you like playing chess, a chess club; playing with others will definitely sharpen your logic skills. Or you can even explore things which are new to you.
Pottery, writing, wine tasting, dancing. These are only a few examples of many. Odds are good that if you have an interest, someone else in the area is likely to share it! We are especially prone to loneliness in the modern society. Social media like Facebook, Whatsapp, or Snapchat may allow more convenient communication, but all these ways of communication neglect the importance of face-to-face socialization.
Just try to reconnect with your old friends, grab a coffee and have a chat with them casually. It does so, as it colors your leisure time. Pets are always there willing to spend time with you. Think of all the strolling, playing, or like me with my dog, sleeping together. But beyond just being a loyal companion, a pet is literally a medicine to heal your pain, as science says.
As Dr. Becker says. And a study in Loyola University also proves that people who receive pet therapy recover from surgery with ificantly less pain medicine than those who do not.
But in fact, self-value is earned. This quote highlights the importance of helping others, and also highlights the fact that most of the time we are the key to many problems we are facing; in other words, you can cure your loneliness. Giving others a hand will help you realize your value, as you discover you are capable of doing so. And helping others also open up opportunities of deep friendships, as very often, a deep relationship is forged in adversity.
You can just pay attention to details. Write your colleague a card if he or she is unhappy. Read out loud for the old man living next to you. Or help to reach the top of a rack. When you feel lonely and think you have got no friends to talk to, you yourself is the best person to talk to. It may sound weird and insane but it works.
You can simply talk to yourself in your mind or pick up a pen and write yourself a letter.
Here are a few ways to ease the pain of loneliness.
Treat yourself as a friend of yours. Tell about your day and talk about your feeling. You can share crazy ideas with yourself without worrying what others think. This serves as an opportunity to build a better relationship with yourself. In life, there are many people around you. They come and go. Only very few of them stay till the end. So the most important relationship in life is the self-relationship. You will be clearer of how you feel and what you think after a genuine conversation with yourself. Loneliness is sometimes accompanied with boredom.
Some spontaneous randomness would drive away your sadness. It can be small things like taking a different route to work, hopping on a random bus to go to the other side of the city where you have never been to, or traveling to a foreign country to get lost in translation. When you take a different route to work, you barely know what you will see and who you will meet at the next street corner.
Every minute is new to you. What is the best thing about strangers? Strangers are everywhere. You can simply strike up a conversation with the person sitting next to you on a bus, or the person who shares a table with you at a diner.
There are also many ways for you to meet people online through apps and websites. Talking to someone makes you feel connected, even if the connection only lasts for a while.
A fruitful relationship is supposed to make you feel contented. However, being with someone who is unable to understand you, it is hard to feel happy.
You may even feel lonelier if that person is a narcissist who constantly undermines your self-respect. What nourishes our life is meaningful relationships, not destructive ones. If you find someone who is deepening your loneliness, let go of them. Persistent loneliness is an indicator of depression. In case of depression, professional medication is necessary.
Loneliness is closely linked to health problems.
Counselling is helpful. A few sessions with a trained psychologist are going to help you pinpoint what triggers your loneliness. A trained psychologist is able to help you with professional strategies.
Please remember seeking help is not a weakness; quite the contrary, seeking help takes a lot more strength than pretending everything is fine. Be brave to tackle the problem. And we believe you will eventually get the taste of happiness in life. Featured photo credit: Stocksnap via stocksnap.